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Social worker Mordechai Weinberger hopes radio program will raise mental-health awareness among

Orthodox Jews

BOROUGH PARK – A social worker wants Borough Park’s Orthodox Jewish community to know that seeking therapy shouldn’t be taboo, so he is raising awareness through an online radio show.

Mordechai Weinberger hosts the weekly show “Let’s Grow Together” in which he takes calls from members of the Jewish community on the online station JRoot Radio.

“I decided, let me put on some lectures of self-esteem and source it in the … Talmud, and points like that, to start creating mental-health awareness because I find there is so much awareness that is lacking,” Weinberger says.

Weinberger also reaches people through a phone hotline he started almost two years ago. By day, he works as a clinical social worker.

Weinberger says he can’t change a person’s life by simply hearing a question and giving an answer on his radio program, but he feels every call raises awareness, allowing acceptance to take root.

Daily Question

1-takes things very personal. they are very sensitive. they know its good but it still hurts what should they do?
2- friend has very controling parents and restrict her. does she have the right to push her to disobey her parents and live her life or not
3- thank you from question # 178
4- why cant proffessionals share some of their basic personal life?
5-I want to be an eisha kesheira and do everything that my husband wants. yet he isnt happy. and i get headaches why?
6- I worked for 10 years as an employee. i want to open my company. any suggestions? do i just invest in the first thing that comes my way?
7- why is it that parents are so dependent on their children? they call them all the time after the wedding. they say why dont you call? dont you love us anymore?
8- I work so hard to pay for the rent but it doesnt cover all the expenses. i want my husband to go to work but i also want him to learn what do it do?
9- I am not accepted in any highschools because a girls made up lies about me. i am so angry at them. what do i do?
10- I had a very hard year. I am now in a bungalow colony. everyone is telling me that if my kids are in camp and daycamp i can volunteer for a chesed. i want to but i also need a break. what do i do?
11- what are real emotions and what are false emotions. example crying by davening is good or not?
12-a follow up call from a girl that wasnt in highschool becasue girls ratted on her, and a substitute that used some ideas from the phoneline and how he used it the last two weeks of daycamp
13- a person in their mid 20 comes from a disfunctional past and was bullied in yeshiva and now in marriage counseling. how does his past effect his present
14- Grandmother that her dausghter seperated and moved into her house with her childe that is the same age as her son. the son is jealous that the nephew is getting more love and gifts and leinient then him. what should she do. she feels bad for her grandson
15- The chilld from Kiryas Yoel that was missing brought up her fears from Leiby Kletsky ztl. she cant sleep. what should she do?
16- 15 cancer survivors get offense why people call it yena machla. like its a terrible stigma. can mw please explain why dont you just call it cancer
17- son going to a therapist and he is getting better and better everywhere except at home. why? what can she do?
18- Sending a todler the youngest to playgroup and 1-she will miss the time that she spent with her (and listen to mw programs when she walks with her). 2- she makes sure that they eat healthy and nutritions
19- a bucher in yeshiva he is very smart and interested in intelegent stuff not like the regular conversations. he feels alone. he helps the weaker boys but he doesnt have real friends
20- why is it sometimes that when i speak my emotions i feel angrier and sometimes when i speak the emotions i feel great?
21- how do i send my spouse to therapy?
22- I suffered from social anxiety for a few years and now a brother of mine called me a liar a year ago. since then i notice how my whole family isnt trusting me anymore. what can i do?
23- how do i know that i am done with therapy? will the therapist tell me? will i know on my own?
24- someone that suffers from anxiety and has doubts on every decision that he makes especially the big ones what should she do?
25- to hear a message of a bucher that took a negative trip and transformed it into a positive. how can he utilize it for the rest of his life
26- a person that is asking how to make a connection to mw as a personal friend and mw asking how to go about it?
27- to hear a thank you from europe and how to deal with that they they feel very nervous and regret everything. should i learn musser? are there books? do i need a therapist?
28- a kid broke something for $100 and the kid is so nervous about it what should they do
29- 1- a person going to therapy and they feel when they are in therapy that the therapist isnt a real person. 2- they feel they cant share everything with their therapist and they want to know if its important to get it out and what to do
30- a kid is in camp and they are afraid of they are homesick and they have kids needing to start playgroup and they are afraid to mention it because they might be afraid of separating and crying. they arents sure if they should start before succos or after. they dont want the kids to go through it twice (before succos and then again after succos)
31- a women who at her job is so afraid of making a mistake and she also notices she has so much good in her life but she cant enjoy it
32- to hear the questioin of why are poeple afraid to give compliments and what to do about it
33- a 13 year old boy that is a good boy and recently he started stuttering and repeating words by davening. is it a sign of something and should she be worried
34- follow up from q 207that the mother sent the kids to play group and now the kids are crying and the milamid says they are crying they arent ready for playgroup. what should she do
35- a small kid is afraid of all moving objects a ball etc. they know why its coming because they were almost in a car accident and now
36- is our mind connected to our physical body and can our body effect our mind
37- a 9 year old kid lied and stole. what should the parent do
38- every time his kid coughs he gets scared and he runs to the doctor for everything . what should he do?
40- a 14 year old boy that is top in the class but he blushes when people talk to him and looks at himself a lot int he mirror. is it a sign of a weak self esteem and what should the parent do
41- someone wants to know what i think about the saying in yiddish “nisht ales vos glantzed is gold” not everything that shines is gold
42- why dont therapist use to build self esteem that we are all a cheilik mialokei mimal and to build confidence from amunah and bitochim
43- a family has a 4 year old special needs kid and they fight with everyone. should they tell people or just let other find out when they realize
44- to hear a cluster of questions about good freinds that changed schools and didnt tell them before. why wouldnt they tell and how to deal with it
45- to hear 2 letters thanking me and my family that came in the mail in one day press
46- people were going to a therapist and saw results and now they dont see results anymore and they need to change. what should they do
47- parents that came home and they think they smell smoke on their linen what should they do
48- two letters of encouragement for the listeners and to mw
49- I suffer from regret. what program would you recomend and how do you suggest i get out of it
50- someone has stopped therapy and they want to know what are the signs if the will need to go back on therapy. how can they know for sure that they are done with therapy
51- A recommendation for everyone to listen to. a follow up success of july 24 of a teenager who is not in high schools because girls spread rumors about her and mw told her to stand up for herself and be pro active.
52- to hear 2 quotes that someone recommended I read on the hotline
53- to hear a complaint and a clarification that i said that a husband should go to work if they need parnusa and to leave kollel
54- what can a mother do when she knows her kid is homesick in camp and is nervous starting yeshiva and the kid doesnt bring it up
55- what can teachers do when they are nervous to start the new year
56- a wife who is married to a husband that doesnt take responsibilty and when she ignores the stuff if accumulates to a big problem. what should she do? should she take over his job when she cant and let it fall or just continue?
57- to hear the question of a yungerman that is learning with a bucher and this bucher is asking in appropriate questions. how to deal with it and not jeopardise the relationship?
58- to hear the question about a person that he has a very big secret and is it a problem if he keeps a strong secret
59- to hear a thank you letter that i recieved
60- to hear an amazing story of hashgacha protious and i verified the story that touched my heart and is giving me a warm story before rosh hashanah
61- to hear comments and texts about my response to question 232 of a women that her husband doesnt take responsibilty and she has to do every. if she lets go it will all fall apart but she cant do eveything
62- a friend that continues to bullys her at work asks her forgiveness before rosh hashona and she did the samething last year press
63- a friend that is angry at you becasue freind a said you said something bad about them and you dont remember saying it and she wont tell you who told her. what to do about it?
64- to hear some thoughts i had on rosh hashonah and an apology from mw why i didnt do a question and answer the day before rosh hashona and the day after
65- a person going to therapy and is now feeling confident and happy with themselves and they are having a hard time feeling the old fears and concerns. is it a problem and how to feel it again?
66- someone going into shiduchim. should they look into someone like them that is light and easygoing and caring, booksmart. or someone different?
67- a mother is asking her 9 year old boy is taking yoim hadin very seriously with lists of aveiris and mitzvos that he did. he is obsessed with it. is this the beginning of OCD? and what should she do?
68- to hear the question of a person that is comparing his davening all the time to last years davening and kavanah to last years
69- to hear a long text of pain and fear of yoim hadin and how to be a be more at ease
70- A brucha mw asked for this year rosh hashona yom kipur and sharing it with everyone
71- after yom kippur and a person is ok with hashem he just wants to be a bit more modern and he wants his parents to accept him. what should he do?
72- a teenager is asking mother that yells and screams all day and speaking to them is not an option what should she do
73- a teenager that is huge pain and should she keep it in like mw supposidely suggested to
74- as a teenager he suffered from severe depression and got out of it all on his own without therapy or medication. now he is happy and married with a son. he feels that something still stayed from the old times. what should he do?
75- a teenager is sure hashem hates them and their mother is sick. what should they do? how can they keep on going?
76- a sibling is leaving for overseas should they finally
77- a person that was recently diagnosed with aspergers. what is it and can they get married
78- wife married to person that has aspergers what should she do
79- bucher that changed yeshivas once and wasnt successful. he has to change now how can he do it?
80- a parent is asking their son has a great personality and carefree. he was a top boy in yeshiva. since he changed yeshivas a few years ago he isnt successful. should they change him now that he still isnt happy
81- apology from mw for not having a cell phone and for finances and not taking the emergency questions first
82- a teenager that doesnt think he has any talents
83- wife that takes medication and husband also needs to take and he doesnt want to take it because she is pressuring him. what should she do
84- to hear the sharp comment of husband being accused of having aspergers whiile the wife is too emotional
85- (from the lakewood scoop) 19 years old mother is weird embarrassing and meddles with the married siblings marriage. parents will never let her go for therapy and she needs it before she gets married what should she do?
86- comments and criticism at me (mw) for shutting my phone?
87- to be strong to do what you are doing!! you are right!! you know it!! stick to it. everyone that is giving advice is not there to take responsibility!! only the people that are responsible can you “listen” to advice
88- I have aspergers and i am divorced. what can i do without therapy?
89- more messages about shutting the phone
90- more messages that were sent in regarding shutting my phone
91- divorced guy that there is less girls to date. should he just take a girl that he heard had issues but is better or should he wait.
92—— failing student all the years and now success as teacher they are giving her older grades to teach. she doesnt trust herself. should she take the higher position or not
93- has a brother and 2 sisters not married. her birthday coming up. she is embarrassed for anyone to know its her birthday. how should she react to birthday messages that come to her
94- friend got engaged and didnt share it before but she thinkds she shared it with 2 other best friends. she cant face the kallah. what should she do?

Both yiddish and english
95- comment about q 87 that surround yourself with positive people. what happens if you tell someone no. does that make you negative. Someone is stuck on the computer and he wont listen to close family. how can you get him to listen to a “no” when its really good for him?
96- getting married shortly and has anxiety that something will happen to her parents and family members before the wedding or during the wedding. her wedding is soon. what should she do?
97- am a life coach and a ben torah and i want to know if its possible to learn 5-6 hours a day and make a parnusa when a tight parnusa today is $10,000 month?
98- a parent that 8 year old girl that is anxious that she wont know or understand in school. she needs therapy does mw have any advice?
99- we have a 15 year old son and he is over a year out of yeshiva. he refuses to continue therapy when they mention yeshiva. recently he showed an interest but he has so many conditions. what should we do? do we force him or not?
100- a person who wants to know if he should go for psychology or speech? if he goes for psychology he will be confident, know how to talk, know how to raise his children, but its hard to make a parnusah. what should he do?
101 comment about the lady who called in to the radio that her son and daughter in law dont want to come to phone.
102 is it possible that a persons metabolism can change. they are on a tight low callorie diet and its not working. how do you build up metabolism
103 I have a sister that was fired from a few jobs. what can i do to help? how do I deal with my parents when they call me to get involved and it shouldnt effect my marriage
104 what to do when someone comes collecting and he has a hard time saying no. he borrowed a hundred dollars to give him and he still feels bad. what should he do?
105 my friend is talking to me about doing a network business. she says ill be good at it. 1-how do i know if i will be good at it or not? 2- every time i discuss it with my husband he turns his head away. its a minimal investment. how do i get him to listen to me?
106 I have an 8 year old boy. one of the top in his class. he has a friend of a lower category. my son is a quiet boy and doesnt make friends easy. should i break it up or not?
107 I am now learning a behavioral system of colors to control a class. it works. I am someone that went through therapy. I know that if you dont work on emotions it doesnt last. I feel cold using that system..
108—- I am in a prominent yeshiva in second year bais medrish. I went to a therapist 4 years ago for anxiety. it helped. now it all fell apart. I cant learn or get an aliya. i tried fighting it and its getting worse. what can I do to get out of it without therapy?
109 I am a very open bucher. i have a close connection to my father but my inner feelings i cant open up to him like i do to my friends and rebbaim. what can i do to get there? what can parents do that their children will open up to them?
110- my teenage daughter needs to talk a lot. she is always on top of me. i dont have patience for her. I am wondering if she spatial. means she spaces out. does she need therapy? what type of therapy will help her?
111- I am building a business from scratch. i have a lot of ups and downs. how can i find a mentor to give me support and advice?
112- a person that is changing meds and feeling side effects, has big shulem bayis problems, the therapist is busy with her father thats like her husband. husband is cheap,never home, criticizes. what should she do?
113- a 7.5 year old boy that doesnt have friends he learns a whole time. when the rebbe pushes him to make friends he gets nervous and he wont open up to his parents. what should they do?
114- my 9.5 year old can get very nervous if you tell him no and through a tantrum. he can pull off the table cloth while we are sitting there. he can hit us and through toys across the room. is this age appropriate or not?
115- follow up messages. from 114
116- a teacher and mother that is happy with what she is doing at home and teaching. she finds that she needs something new in her life. is that a positive or a negative.
117- A mother that was severely depressed for 10 years and now she is on medication and her life is back to normal. she feels she has shonah reshoina again. he issues is that family members remember she was crying and yelling. how to deal with that.
118- the letter of a women that since she heard the program her marriage is now unsure and less confident how to deal with her situation. how does she get more confident
119- my kids are good hearted angels in school and at home they are animals. why is it so? what can I do different?
120-a teenager that has a great teacher that pushes her to do more then she can and she is successful.
121- I am currently going to a therapist he says that my negative thinking is whats causing me to be depressed and not do anything. how can my thinking cause that?
122- to hear some impossible solutions of family members that have issues and not wanting to go for help. what should the family members do?
123- I know your not a rov but i am curious of your answer. you give me so much inspiration and hope. please can you answer my question. their situation is so dire. I have issue with my kids. I have difficulty in business. I have difficulties with my shulem bayis. Its now chanakah. what hope can I have when I light the minorah?
124- On your program you mentioned adult adhd. can you explain if you are born with it? how can they manage all the years while having it? how can it be that at least the parents didnt notice it?some of what you said matches what my husband has. he seems to be getting more intense does that make sense?
125- when are things ocd in cleanliness or anxiety at the normal stuff? when is it diagnosable and when not?
126- a teenager that made a best friend in camp and she talks to much. she was afraid that she will lose this friend. she is also afraid that she said to much. how does she deal with it?
127- an email of a person that is traumatised by chanakah experiences in their parents home and how it still affects them. how they started getting out of it
128- a mother is asking that her son is married for 2 years and he developed certain issues. they went from the doctor to the neurologist that told them their son has ocd. how to tell it to him. will he need medication and should you tell the daughter in law or not?
129- A 20 year old bucher has Body dismorphic disorder. he has tried to kill himself 2 years ago. he is under a lot of pain. he is asking what is the next step that he should do?
130- a girl that went through serious medical condition as a kid and and early teen. she cant enjoy simple mundane conversations. is it important to be able to talk mundane stuff? how do I learn it?
131- a personal question. I am going to a top therapist. we hired a life coach to help out with technical stuff. since she got involved things got worse. after two weeks we fired her. now she is badmouthing me and the therapist about how bad i am doing. why is she so mean? why is she acting like a baby?
132- a message for #128. a successful story of a person that shared with his wife his OCD issue and it was a relief for them both. she is begging people to share with their spouses. it will bring them closer.
133- in regards to question 123 of a women that her husband is not working and she is tight with money. this question is that her husband borrowed from family to invest it went sour. now he doesnt go to shul and outside. she asked someone for help and her husband found out. he is furious. its her fault. what should she do?
134- a rebbe that he has an 11 year old student that has to be perfect all over. if he gets a 99 he gets hysterical. how can he teach him not to be a perfectionist?
135- I have a husband that based on what you said has ADD. he refuses to take medication. he sais “this is my nature” this isnt communism. i have a choice. what should she do?
136- a person had ocd and anxiety. after a year of therapy and medication. the ocd adn anxiety left. a long time after he had a kid and the ocd came back. tharapy without medication helped. now recently anxiety came back. why is it happening? why is it coming back?
137- A teacher and a mother are asking a child/student is a perfectionist. how do you calm it down? why are they like this? does this get better with years?
138- a mother that her 12 year old daughter has a “friend” that moved on to the block and she follows her allover. both in school and at home. even the teachers see its to much. what do you do that wont hurt the girl?
139-I heard your program with Rabbi Doctor Twerski. he mentioned the importance of being able to say “I love you, Thank you, Im sorry” I am married for 12 years and have 7 children and still not able to say it. can you give me a tip how to learn?
140- someone that is having being to much hanaoa of doing mitzvos. he is concerned that this isnt what hashem wants. is this ocd or not?
141-how do i help by 14 year old son to have more hasmoda in his learning and achieve more
142-I am an askin. I volunteer all the time to organizations. my issue is that i only enjoy life when there is a rush. i know that you have to learn to enjoy the peace. i am just not feeling it. If this is my nature will I always struggle? can I be helped?
143- a person that sent a poam of his pain and a speech that is his encouragement.
144- I want to become a therapist. what is the first step?
145- her 4 year old son asked her “mommy when will you be nifter? how do I answer that?
146- can you discuss alcohol addiction? my husband has to take a full cup of alcohol when he comes home from work and many times in the morning before work. is that called an addict? I begged him to stop and he wont. what do I do?
147- my daughter has a friend that was just nifter from cancer. she is afraid that i will die of it. I also have cancer. how can i reassure her when i dont know myself if i will live or not?
148- I am from overseas and im coming in for my sisters wedding. My mother suffers from a mental illness and is very controlling. what can i do to plan it out that it should be a successful trip?
149-To hear how to deal with the anxiety and the fear of Rabbi Nuchem Stark. Its similar to the Leiby Kletzky tragedy.
150-I have a brother that helped me with yeshivas getting chavrusis. , getting the training for the job, finding a job, he makes me feel guilty if i dont call or do things he doesnt approve. i am feeling guilty and trapped. what can I do?
151— a cancer survivor is taking their annual scan. they are afraid of what will happen if it comes back. they are having nightmares. what do I suggest?
152- a girl that weighs 215 pounds and she wants to know if she should try hypnosis or maybe therapy. what do i suggest?
153- bvas mitzvah thougths for those that are interested.
154- a 19 year old girl who recently finished school and i was diagnosed with bi polar.
155- an apology from mw and a letter of chizuk from a caller/listener for mw
156-a lady that washes her hand after everything because she is afraid of germs that will cause her a stomach virus. is this OCD?
157-A person that is Bi Polar and isnt feeling things. they arent laughing or crying. plus therapy is stressing them out. should they stop? and is this normal?
158- a mother has 10 year old twins. she talks to them in a serious tone at bedtime so they should go to sleep. they say I am in a bad mood. I am not. I do i explain to them that i am not in a bad mood?
159- a grown man that has a very close friend that they were able to discuss everything. lately he is distant and the conversations are shallow. i cant speak to him. what do i do?
160- I am 25 y/o. i went to my brother for shabbos. his kids were fighting and i told them to stop. my brother told me that i am too tense. isnt it normal to tell children to stop fighting. is there something wrong with me or with him?
161- A teenager thats mother has stage 4 cancer and will never survive and her grades are falling and teachers are angry at her. she is afraid to open up. what should she do?
162- a women that the family financials are dire. she made a sign with hashem if she should go to work and it came out to do it. now she feels she isnt the best mother as she was. should she drop it or not?
163- mother asking about her teenage daughter that is obese. her daughter wants to take the extreme diet pills or do the surgery of the band. her pediatrician doesnt like the idea. what should she do?
164- A lady that is married for over 17 years and her husband is very critical to their oldest child. she asks him to speak nicer but he tells her if you would be more strict i wouldnt have to be so strict. what should she do?
165- A person that is strongly depressed and doesnt know why. is there any uplifting message of chizuk I can give them?
166- A chusen that got married and moved to an area that he doesnt know anyone. he cant connect beyond the basic Hi, how are you. is there any advice for him to connect to people?
167- a 17 year old girl that who has social anxiety, means she turns red and gets very embarrassed. she went to 3 therapist for 2 months each and is on medication for a year. should she go to a fourth therapist? if she is on medication how will she get off it?
168- sisters are asking that they have a sister that is tough and wont help out. how can they protect themselves when not to get hurt from the insults? how can they answer her back in a way to stop her negative behaviors?
169- to hear the feedback of last question. for and against the suggestion that i had for the sisters that they have a sister that doesnt offer to help and that she is sharp to them. to hear the feedback press
170- a mother that has two teenage daughters. the older daughter has a disability. should they hold back the younger one from doing tasks that the older one cant do or not?
171-a father that his teenage son is doing behaviors the family doesnt permit. he knows his mother knows about it but doesn know that his father knows of it. should the father tell him that he knows or let him think he doesnt and still have that extra respect to his father
172- a person that is on a diet for 3 weeks and they are having major cravings. they also went on the scale and didnt lose any weight this past week. they dont know why. what does mw suggest?
173-of a person that doesnt have any support of the parents and a husband that is going through huge issues. her only support was a therapist that was helping her for 3 years and now he dropped her too. how can she go on?
174- for the follow response from 172 about the diet and a very warm and emotional words of chizuk for #173 of a person that has recently gone through the being dropped from a therapist and not having parents and husband for support. press …
175- to hear chizuk from someone that had stress about dieting a secret that helped them lose weight and enjoy the life.
176-about a grandfather that is 90 plus and he is hearing voices in his head that people want to kill him. his daughter is putting up signs saying its not true. he is getting more agitated. what therapy should they do for him? will hypnosis help?
177- we have two positive letters. one is from question 164 who asked about her husband that is very good to her but very critical to there 16 year old son. what should she do and my answer was not to her liking. but it worked. second is a message of dont give up.
178- positive letter from a client
179- It is 3:08 am. I have a hard time falling asleep at night. when i lay down i get energized from my thoughts. they come racing in. i had this problem from a young girl.
180—- a wife that is asking if her husband has aspergers if he doesnt give emotions. and feedback from q 172 and 174 about the scale
181- someone has signed up to a multi level marketing system and there parents are against it. they signed up anyhow. now their parents and giving them negative comments and attitude. how do they deal with it?
182– helping relative depressed. to get husband and parents to get them to therapy
183-awareness thougth will only need one session then 8 now they see they will need a lot more
184- trip vacation- take a half hour off once in two weeks to feel nature. most of my clients would feel better
185- physical touch is it important and why do it crave it so much if i am an adult?
186- going to a therapist for 4 years for confidence and self esteem. is it normal to go for that long?
187- Someone in the late 20’s is afraid of authority. they are afraid to say anything when there parents, in laws bosses or directors come in. what should they do?
188- thoughts about tanis esther and teenager whose mother was diagnosed with a tumor. they dont know if its cancerous or if there is a survival or treatment options. she cant get her mind out of it
189-purim thoughts
190- a rebbe that is teaching in an irreligious school. the kids come from dysfunctional homes. they chutzpa is terrible. there is one particular kid that is from a very troubled past. he is very misbehaved. what can we do to help him and change his behaviors?
191- her father hates her husband. he doesnt hide it. he tells it to everyone. family and friends. when they got married it effected her shulem bayis now its better. her problem is when she goes to her parents house for yom tov she gets looks down at him. what can she do?
192- follow up 2 letters to 191 that one is a happy one and one is a sad ending. all is about how parents involvement affected their shulem bayis.
193 – why dosnt mw discuss the poisen of Prozac. since shabsi tzvi there wasnt such an issue in klal yisroel as bad as medication
194- follow up messages from question 193. response to the writer that says .
195- is a wife allowed to ask her husband for compliments but she doesnt want to look like a fool asking
196- a person that is helping kids off the derech and he is up late at night. how does he balance that with taking care of his family
197- question from a 16 year old girl that a classmate is anorexic and tense and gives speeches where she herself isnt good at. what should she do?
198- a mother of a 10 year old girl that cries when she has to go to school because she is afraid to leave her mother. if she has to go to a close relative for a few days she can cry in the bathroom for hours. what can she do to heal her separation anxiety
199- a milamid is asking what to do about a 9 year old boy that 1- cant do the smallest thing like take an envelope from one place to the next. 2- wont concentrate in learning to get the gimurah right. he will fight you if you say he said it wrong. what do you do?
200- two questions that are asked. a friend that confides in her how depressed she is. she cant handle it anymore. a second question. the family went through a trauma and family members are calling to unload and they are getting down after. what should they do?
201- a person that is an emotional person and his spouse gets nervous and can lower his mood for a few hours. what can he do to stay strong?
202-follow up messages from #61201. wives that responded its because the husband isnt listening to them. why doesnt he change.
203- an adult that found that they are not able to express their thoughts properly in words. this is a new situation. they recently went through a trauma. is it possible that it effected their speech? do they need a speech therapist
204— a person that is going for therapy and they feel angry and depressed after the session. thoughts of why me? any tools how to see therapy different.
205- feedback from 3 people about #204
206- thoughts about pesach
207- how to manage chal hamoed when he wants one point and his wife wants another. then the kids want a complete third tasks. how to work it out?
208- questions comments about how hard yom tov pesach becasue of the tension and nerves are there. and how to manage the kid that is tense on pesach. what we can do to create
209— positive letter from right before pesach.
210- a parent of an 8 year old boy who throws tantrums and can even put himself in harms way when wants something. is it normal and is there anything they can do to stop it?
211-a wife wants to know if she is better in a certain job then her husband should she step in and take care of it or not
212- a women that is married for 20 years and her husband is used to the stress and tension before. she is calm and easy. how can she explain to him to accept her calm way? this is a general question for every marriage
213- a person that went for therapy for a year before they got married for pressures in the house. now she feels a big pressure again. she needs to go to the therapist. how can she tell her husband that she needs a therapist?
214- a wife whom her husband has a personality disorder, ocd. adhd, and anxiety. he doesnt want to continue marital therapy. what should she do? he likes mw and will consider going to you for therapy
215- a bucher saying that his life has improved by learning the mw tool of emotion. we share some more understanding why it works
216- 2 questions. a mother of a 9 year old boy that he has anger management issues and he acts immature. a second question is that a mother has a 3 year old kid that has many toys and is very clingy to her. what can she do to make him play by himself?
217- 2 teachers are asking what can they do when they have a student that is turning quiet because there parent is not well?
218- a person that wishes she can be her therapist daughter. she can get all her unconditional love of 45 minute session all the time. what should she do?
219- a person wants to know if she should apologize to a friend for snobbing her out during high school or by apologising now a few years later it will re hurt the old pain?
220- a wife that has wonderful shulem bayi and good communication with her husband just her moods are intertwined with her husbands. that means that when he is in a good mood she is in a good mood and when she is in a bad mood she gets in a bad mood. is this healthy? how can she develope her own mood?
221-a friend that is helping someone and its getting to draining. how can she create her space without hurting her friend?
222-were taking 2 questions. one of a person before marriage and another of a person 6 years after marriage. notice issues dont go away.
223-critic and a question that a person is going to a competent therapist but it still didnt click exactly and not to suggest going to another therapist.
224- a husband that is very sensitive and wanted gets into rage. what can the wife do for herself and for her husband
225- follow up to question 224
226— thoughts about shvous
227- thank yous from listeners and clients
228- what can a wife do to encourage her husband when he gets nervous and tense when he does tasks and it takes longer than he expected or didnt work out.
229- a girl that has a job and father needs the money. she asked to save it for her wedding but now the family is calling her cold.
230- an 18 year old person is asking should they go on medication to survive their negative emotional abusive house or should they leave the house and not take medication?
231- A boy is being read to her parents. he is the top boy in yeshiva. a few years ago he had taken medication because he had to be the best. her parents are going down to meet the doctor. should she look further into it or not?
232- to hear the messages pro and con to my advice the previous messages about girl that is being read a shidduch that the boy pushed himself to be the best and was put on medication. now he is off it. what should she do?
233- to hear 2 follow up comments about this saga with dating someone that has taken medication when they were a teenager press…
234- a bucher that is in the yeshiva a zman and still doesnt have friends and is now doubting if he was confident or able to speak up. this question is also helpful to people going up now to the country and wanting to be the best friends of everyone right away.
235- a 14 year old person that lost their mother at 10 and father is very critical and not emotional. they get blamed all the time. what should they do?
236- feedback from #229 about a girl that is working to save for her wedding yet her father is out of a job and needs her money for food what should she do?
237- a teenage boy who had close friend and then the didnt have what to talk about. now they are fighting all the time. to hear why this is so important for the bungalow colony time and for camp press
238—boys that were rachmonu nitzlun killed by animals
239- sister, yurtzeit emotions. question of someone that has a mother that doesnt let her express emotions. one girl triggered her that looked like her mother. she gave it all out on her. now she feels guilty. is this normal
240-3 questions of ASAP a person that is going to have surgery and they have to go to their parents. but its so negative what do they do? a 12 year old that has lots of health fears. what do they do asap. a kid that the parents put others needs ahead of themselves. then they let out the nerves on the kids. what can they do?
241- a teenager is asking they have confidence issues because they are only secure around family and friends. but in new people she is afraid and shuts down. what can she do? this is important to everyone. (what does confident mean)
242- gratitude messages and in my life aday before my fathers yurtzeit
243- thoughts on my fathers yurtzeit
244— read letters of people that did stuff lielu nishmas my father
245- a person that went through a tough time. they miss the tough person and those emotions. are they normal?
246- someone that has a minor issue that cant make phone calls. ex doctors appt and grocery. is it an issue and how can they get help fi they cant hurt
247- a bucher is 7 years in a yeshivah. he is now going to eretz yisroal. he is settled in this place. what can he do to make the transition easier? why is this important for all of us to learn master
248- a teenager that went to therapy while her mother was sick for nightmares and anxiety but it didnt help. now that her mother was nifter a teacher is asking her to continue. should she or not?
249- a person that is asking that they want to go to sleep and wake up after yom tov. the person is also saying that they are missing the intensity of being close to hashem. what is the hidden lesson mw learned from this persons question
250- a grandson is asking that his 83 year old grandfather is in critical condition. the family isnt telling his grandmother the truth. she is asking whats happening with zeidy. i dont have a good feeling about him. should he tell her or not?
251- a person that goes to therapy and they are in huge pain during the process. any suggestions to ease the pain? why the awareness is important for people.
252- a 17 year old girl that just started therapy because her mother doesnt talk to her 2 married siblings. she is in therapy already 6 sessions and doesnt see any changes. what should she do?
253- 4 messages of thanks and some points that every person can take from it

254- a person that is going to therapy and its working. he can daven and learn. the only problem is that he is finding himself to calm. is it normal and should he continue or not

255- to hear a beautiful poem of person that is going into their deepest darkest pain in therapy and a tefilah to hashem. we are not alone. lets learn and face our issues
256- a 22 year old girl that isnt engaged yet and everyone is married. is there any advice and why the solution its important for everyone
257- a letter of thank you and a question about a mother that took a 400 parenting course and read a lot of books but her knee jerk reaction is still to shout like her mother.
258- two messages of thank you and a question of a person that wakes up of nightmares every night with no reason or pertaining to the days events. what should they do?
259- a thank you letter and a validation for taking the question of a labidaga yosim and a question that he has a sister in shuduchim and feels that the he has a very good friend that would be a good shidduch. he is just afraid of him finding out about his family.
260- mother was sick for two years and now that mother is nifter she cant daven to hashem. how can she talk to the person that gave her all this pain? this question is not necessarily a hashkofah sheila but of pain..
261- a letter of thank you from a client and a person sharing their experience of having a parent that has gone through the cancer with emotional therapy and without therapy how it looks like.
262–17 year old teen that is in therapy and the therapist asked parents to join. husband doesnt want to and is causing son to doubt therapy. what should she do?
263-a person that has gone for therapy for 3 sessions and now they cant bury and hide the painful emotions as in the past. what should they do?
264- a husband cant keep a job for more 3 months after several jobs the wife suggested to move cities. husband asked the rov and suggested that she go for therapy. what therapy therapy does she need and why arent they focusing on his issues?
265- a person asking that adults that have a lot of pain in them that people resent them now started out very optimistic in life. what can they do now that they are young to make sure they stay positive and optimistic in the future reality
266- in the colony every women has their chair in the circle. someone was sitting in her chair what should she do? if she tells the person to stand up then she will feel bad for doing it. but if she doesnt say anything. she wont be able to stay and have to leave. this question is important for everyone

If there is anything that we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves.

To truly live, you must try something beyond what you have already mastered!

You will always miss 100% of opportunities you don’t take

The best way to predict the future is to create it.

Challenges do not build character… it reveals it.

The greatest discovery one can make is that nothing is impossible.

Leadership is the power to see obstacles as opportunity.

Luck is when persistent effort meets opportunity.

A parent’s job is to look into the future and see the child not as he is now but as who he may become.

Always remember that to one person, this “rock” is an obstacle and to another it is the stepping stone to reach higher ground.

In the dance between the water and the stone, the water always wins. Not through strength, but by persistence.

Never doubt that blending your talent together with another’s talent will enhance your own.

People don’t care how much we know until they know how much we care.

A shared purpose combined with a positive mental attitude constitutes an unstoppable force.

The greatest discovery of any generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitude.

When you see boundaries as opportunities the world becomes a limitless place.

When a collection of brilliant minds, hearts, and talents come together, expect a masterpiece.

Embrace a challenge so that you may feel the exhilaration of victory.

Greatness is not in where we stand but in what direction we are moving.

Sometimes we must sail with the wind and sometimes against it- but sail we must.

Your attitude almost always determines your altitude in life.

A successful person is one who has laughed often and loved much.

Respect is to the man who has earned the love of his family.

Remember, every flower that has ever bloomed had to go through a lot of dirt to get there.

Watch your thoughts for they may become words. Choose your words for they may become your actions.

If your ship doesn’t come in, swim out to it!

You can have two outcomes in life, reasons or results. Reasons don’t count.

Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.

If you are constantly being mistreated, you’re cooperating with the treatment.

It is your decisions not your conditions that truly shape the quality of your life.

You don’t have to be positive, you just have to be yourself.

Life is found in the dance between your deepest desire and your greatest fear.

We cannot direct the wind but we can adjust the sails.

Impossible is the possible that didn’t happen yet.

There is no way to know before experiencing.

If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant; if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome.

Some people are willing to work, only if they can start at the top and work up.

A moment of choice is a moment of truth. It’s the testing point of our character and competence.

Others can stop you temporarily, only you can do it permanently.

Compromise: The art of dividing a cake in such a way that everybody believes he got the biggest piece.

Before you can break out of prison, you must first realize you’re locked up.

You cannot control without being controlled.

When you blame others, you give up your power to change.

Life’s not about waiting for the storms to pass… it’s about learning to dance in the rain.

Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have.

Confidence is contagious. So is the lack of confidence.

If you find a good solution and become attached to it, the solution may become your next problem.

There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning.

What works for you may not work for someone else. So what makes you think your way is so much better.

If you are not rich, notice how you make yourself poor.

The price of excellence is discipline; the cost of mediocrity is disappointment.

Rules worth having, are worth enforcing.

Keep responsible decisions, on responsible hands.

Prevention is the best solution.

The price of greatness is responsibility.

It’s not about making the “right choice”. It’s about making your “choices right”.

Perhaps the greatest of all illusions, is that life could somehow be better than it is now!

Good judgement comes from experience; and experience…well, that comes from bad judgement.

A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.

Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now.

Long-range goals keep you from being frustrated by short-term failures.

We can do anything we want to as long as we stick to it long enough.

It’s not differences that divide us. It’s our judgments about each other that do.

Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.

Leadership is getting people to work for you when they are not obligated.

Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.

Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.

Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain, and most fools do.

Beware of little expenses. A small leak will sink a big ship.

He that is of the opinion money will do everything may well be suspected of doing everything for money.

Farming looks mighty easy when your plow is a pencil and you’re a thousand miles from the corn field.

To be prepared for war is one of the most effective means of preserving peace.

Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.

The greatest lesson in life is to know that even fools are right sometimes.

Conviction is worthless unless it is converted into conduct.

Courage is doing what you are afraid to do. There can be no courage without fear.

Entrepreneurship is a state of mind, a can-do attitude, a capacity to focus on a vision and work toward it.

If your actions inspire others to do more, to learn more, to dream more or to become more, you are a leader.

It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan.

A smart person once gave me the following advice: “Look around & if you’re the smartest person in the room, you are in the wrong room.”

The question in life is not whether you get knocked down.The question is, are you ready to get back up… and fight for what you believe in?

Out of clutter, find simplicity. From discord, find harmony. In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.

You will never change your life until you change something you do daily.

Real difficulties can be overcome. It’s the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.

Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear.

Luck favors the well prepared.

Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.

People will do anything for those who encourage their dreams, justify their failures, allay their fears, and confirm their suspicions.

Your past is not your potential. In any hour you can choose to liberate the future.

If you do not change direction, you may end up where you’re heading.

The cave you most fear to enter contains the greatest treasure.

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.

Courage does not always roar. Sometimes, it is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.

it is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that things are difficult.

While one person hesitates because he feels inferior, the other is busy making mistakes and becoming superior.

You can’t help someone get up a hill without getting closer to the top yourself.

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.

I don’t know if you’ll succeed or fail, but I know this: you will fail if you don’t try!

Better to fail at doing the right thing than to succeed at doing the wrong thing.

It is not the strongest of people that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.

The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.

Never doubt that small group of thoughtful, committed people have changed the world. Indeed it is the only thing that ever has.

Wisdom is knowing what path to take next… integrity is taking it…

The currents that determine our dreams and shape our lives flow from the attitudes we nurture every day.

What we can easily see is only a small percentage of what is possible. Imagination is having the vision to see the rest.

A positive perspective removes the rust of our minds. And helps us see beyond the box we’ve built for ourselves.

Every time you open your mouth you let me look into your mind!

A burnt child dreads the fire.

Character is what your are in the dark.

Things turn out best for people who make the best of how things turn out.

The best crop grows the closest to the ground.

The difference between scared and sacred is how we ‘C’ ourselves.

Sometimes the hardest decision in life is which bridge to cross and which one to burn.

Things aren’t necessarily going wrong just because they’re not going my way.

I’m not where I need to be but at least I’m not where I used to be.

You can’t stay sober today on yesterday’s sobriety.

Keep your acceptance level high and your expectation level low!

I am learning how to make it better but I sure know how to make it worse.

There are several paths to the top of the mountain, but the view is the same.

Being humble isn’t that we think less of ourselves, it’s that we think of ourselves less.

Happiness is wanting what you do, not doing what you want.

If you like everyone you have met at meetings, you haven’t been to enough meetings!

Feelings of “guilt” is a small way of letting me know I am out of balance spiritually.

The good news is that your feelings come back…The bad news is that your feelings come back.

If you hang around the barber shop long enough you’re gonna get a haircut.

Yesterday is history; tomorrow is a mystery; today is a gift – that’s why they call it the present.

Happiness is not something you get, it’s something you work for.

If your head is full of you – you’ll learn nothing new.

Conflict cannot survive without your participation.

Remember, if you’re headed in the wrong direction, Hashem allows u-turns!

Now that it’s all over, what did you really do yesterday that’s worth mentioning?

Never miss an opportunity to make others happy, even if you have to leave them alone in order to do it.

You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.

Pick battles big enough to matter, small enough to win.

I make the most of all that comes, and the least of all that goes.

The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.

There is a time for departure even when there’s no certain place to go.

Look at life as though you were seeing it either for the first or last time.

If you keep rephrasing the question, it gradually becomes the answer.

Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.

It is every man’s obligation to put back into the world at least the equivalent of what he takes out of it.

You cannot solve a problem with the mind that created it.

Everything you are against weakens you. Everything you are for empowers you.

Judgement prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances.

Only the insecure strive for security.

The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of the state of your mind.

The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.

When you judge another you do not define them, you define yourself.

You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.

Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.

A yes for one is a no for someone else.

After the game, the king and the pawn go into the same box.

Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.

It is easier to be wise for others than for ourselves.

Years teach us more than books.

You must look into other people as well as at them.

A man’s own good breeding is the best security against other people’s ill manners.

Arguing with a fool proves there are two.

Look to be treated by others as you have treated others.

Success in life, in anything, depends upon the number of persons that one can make himself agreeable to.

Let us believe neither half of the good people tell us of ourselves, nor half of the evil they say of others.

The more you say, the less people remember.

Every man is a volume if you know how to read him.

The less people speak of their greatness, the more we think of it.

imagination is more important than knowledge.  Albert Einstein

He who has imagination without learning, has wings and no feet.

You cannot depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.

Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.

Men are governed only by serving them; the rule is without exception.

There go the people. I must follow them for I am their leader.

The real leader has no need to lead– he is content to point the way.

Not the cry, but the flight of a wild duck, leads the flock to fly and follow.

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.

Never tell people how to do things. Tell them what to do and they will surprise you with their ingenuity.

In this world a man must either be an anvil or hammer.

No man can stand on top because he is put there.

What you cannot enforce you do not command.

Winning isn’t everything, but wanting to win is.

Failures do what is tension relieving, while winners do what is goal achieving.

If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up someplace else.

If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.

Any one can hold the helm when the sea is calm.

He who has never learned to obey cannot be a good commander.

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.

Never tell people how to do things. Tell them what to do and they will surprise you with their ingenuity.

In this world a man must either be an anvil or hammer.

No man can stand on top because he is put there.

People become critics when they don’t have what it takes to be an artist.

If you have ten thousand regulations, you destroy all respect for the law.

If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up someplace else.

Who aims at excellence will be above mediocrity; who aims at mediocrity will be far short of it.

Don’t bunt. Aim out of the ballpark.

Reach high, for stars lie hidden in your soul. Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal.

You cannot dream yourself into a character: you must hammer and forge yourself into one.

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.

The best way to make your dreams come true is to wake up.

Storms make oaks take roots.

Take calculated risks. That is quite different from being rash.

The only way of finding the limits of the possible is by going beyond them into the impossible.

Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burden behind us.

Work spares us from three evils: boredom, vice, and need.

The best way out is always through.

Fortune favors the brave.

Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.

Every artist was first an amateur.

Experience is the child of thought, and thought is the child of action.

Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true.

You are the handicap you must face. You are the one who must choose your place.

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

Sports serve society by providing vivid examples of excellence.

Most ball games are lost, not won.

If you can’t accept losing, you can’t win.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

A teacher affects eternity: he can never tell where his influence stops.

It is the supreme art of the teacher to awaken joy in creative expression and knowledge.

Whatever you want to teach, be brief.

When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door we do not see the one that has been opened.

In the hopes of reaching the moon men fail to see the flowers that blossom at their feet.

I have learned to seek my happiness by limiting my desires, rather than attempting to satisfy them.

Happiness grows at our own firesides, and is not to be picked in strangers’ gardens.

Time in its aging course teaches all.

You will never “find” time for anything. If you want time, you must make it.

I recommend you take care of the minutes and the hours will take care of themselves.

To do two things at once is to do neither.

Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time, for that is the stuff life is made of.

Change before you have to.

When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.

It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.

It is often easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission

For every good reason there is to lie, there is a better reason to tell the truth.

Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’!

It is always the simple that produces the marvelous.

You cannot change what you refuse to confront.

Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.

Don’t think of cost. Think of value.

Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

Too many people buy things they don’t need with money they don’t have to impress people they don’t know.

Saying someone is ugly doesn’t make you any prettier.

It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.

If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse..

Never do something permanently foolish just because you are temporarily upset.

You can learn great things from your mistakes when you aren’t busy denying them.

In life, if you don’t risk anything, you risk everything.

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you.

People are more what they hide than what they show.

Sometimes people don’t notice the things others do for them until they stop doing them.

Being alone does not mean you are lonely, and being lonely does not mean you are alone.

The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the grandest intention.

Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.

When you’re up, your friends know who you are. When you’re down, you know who your friends are.

Many people are so poor because the only thing they have is money.

Learn to appreciate the things you have before time forces you appreciate the things you once had.

It’s better to know and be disappointed than to never know and always wonder.

If you tell the truth, it becomes a part of your past. If you lie, it becomes a part of your future.

You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

Only he who can see the invisible can do the impossible.

Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.

The man, who says his wife can’t take a joke, forgets that she took him.

Everyone looks retarded once you set your mind to it.

“A room without books is like a body without a soul.”

The main thing is to keep the main thing main thing…

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

“It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.”

It is a good thing for an uneducated man to read books of quotations.

A fanatic is one who can’t change his mind and won’t change the subject.

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

History is written by the victors.

Difficulties mastered are opportunities won.

We are masters of the unsaid words, but slaves of those we let slip out.

There is no such thing as public opinion. There is only published opinion.

Three can keep a secret, if two of them are dead.

Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing

A man wrapped up in himself makes a very small bundle.

Some people die at 25 and aren’t buried until 75

Whatever is begun in anger ends in shame.

Anger is never without a reason, but seldom with a good one.

When in doubt, don’t.

Be slow in choosing a friend, slower in changing

Distrust and caution are the parents of security.

Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut afterwards

Many a man thinks he is buying pleasure, when he is really selling himself to it.

There was never a good war, or a bad peace.

The quickest way to acquire self confident is to do exactly what you’re afraid of

Talk is cheap because there is a greater supply than demand.

A person who does what he pleases is seldom pleased with what he does.

No one stands as tall as the one who bends down to other.

If a child cannot learn in the way you teach, we must teach in a way the child can learn

When you’re finished changing, you’re finished.

The tragedy in life doesn’t lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goal to reach.

The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.

Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.

Successful and unsuccessful people do not vary greatly in their abilities. They vary in their desires to reach their potential.

My attitude is that if you push me towards something that you think is a weakness, then I will turn that perceived weakness into a strength.

If you can imagine it, you can achieve it; if you can dream it, you can become it

It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.

Study while others are sleeping; work while others are loafing; prepare while others are playing; and dream while others are wishing.

Books can be dangerous. The best ones should be labeled ‘This could change your life’.

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.

Out of clutter, find Simplicity. From discord, find Harmony. In the middle of difficulty lies Opportunity.

Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose.

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.

If we did all the things we are capable of, we would astound ourselves.

The task of leadership is not to put greatness into people, but to elicit it, for the greatness is there already.

Some succeed because they are destined. Some succeed because they are determined.

Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you want.

Setting an example is not the main means of influencing others; it is the only means.

A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.

Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.

Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.

An idea can turn to dust or magic, depending on the talent that rubs against it.

If you worry about yesterday’s failures, then today’s successes will be few.

Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.

You are what you think about all day long.

What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.

Success is not to be measured by the position someone has reached in life, but the obstacles he has overcome while trying to succeed.

To avoid criticism do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.

If you want to make your dreams come true, the first thing you have to do is wake up.

By working faithfully eight hours a day you may eventually get to be boss and work twelve hours a day.

Wear your learning, like your watch, in a private pocket: and do not pull it out and strike it, merely to show that you have one.

I’d rather be a failure at something I enjoy than a success at something I hate.

Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.

He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not ask remains a fool forever.

The finish line is just the beginning of a whole new race

The difference between a goal and a dream is a deadline

The secret of getting ahead is getting started

It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not

If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you’ll find an excuse

It’s not the size of the dog in the fight but the size of the fight in the dog

Pain is temporary, pride is forever

Try and fail is the manner of losers; try and learn is the way of the strong

Success must be felt within before it can be seen on the outside

You have to do what others won’t, in order to achieve what others don’t.

The greatest oak was once a little nut who held its ground

Tough times don’t last. Tough people do

Obsessed is just a word the lazy use to describe the dedicated

Being defeated is often a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent

The man who has no imagination has no wings

It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not

The harder you work, the luckier you get

There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning form failure

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to ones courage

Things do not change. We change

Hard work is a two-way street. You get back exactly what you put in

Try and fail but don’t fail to try

If you think you can or if you think you can’t, you’re right

Nobody can want it for you, you have to want it for yourself.

Be strong. You never know who you are inspiring

I don’t care if your not motivated. Just show up!

Kids spell love like this, t-i-m-e

Maker sure your worst enemy doesn’t live between your ears.

The difference between who are and who you want to be is what you do.

On good days, I work. On bad days, I work HARDER.

Success is the sum of all small actions

Fear is a Liar.

If you never fail, then you’re not working hard enough

Improvements begin with “I”Look in the mirror… that’s your competition.

Change before you have to.
When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future


It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.


It is often easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission


For every good reason there is to lie, there is a better reason to tell the truth.
Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’!


It is always the simple that produces the marvelous
You cannot change what you refuse to confront.

Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.

Don’t think of cost.  Think of value.

Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

Too many people buy things they don’t need with money they don’t have to impress people they don’t know.  .

Saying someone is ugly doesn’t make you any prettier.

It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.

As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.

Making a hundred friends is not a miracle.  The miracle is to make a single friend who will stand by your side even when hundreds are against you.

If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse..

While you’re busy looking for the perfect person, you’ll probably miss the imperfect person who could make you perfectly happy.

Never do something permanently foolish just because you are temporarily upset.

You can learn great things from your mistakes when you aren’t busy denying them.

In life, if you don’t risk anything, you risk everything.

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you.

People are more what they hide than what they show.

Sometimes people don’t notice the things others do for them until they stop doing them.

Being alone does not mean you are lonely, and being lonely does not mean you are alone.

Love and appreciate your parents.  We are often so busy growing up, we forget they are also growing old.

Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.

When you’re up, your friends know who you are.  When you’re down, you know who your friends are.

If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you didn’t eat him.

The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the grandest intention.

Many people are so poor because the only thing they have is money.

Learn to appreciate the things you have before time forces you appreciate the things you once had.

It’s better to know and be disappointed than to never know and always wonder.

There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go.

If you tell the truth, it becomes a part of your past.  If you lie, it becomes a part of your future.

You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

Lets dare to be ourselves, We do that the best

The greatest revenge is to accomplish what others say you cannot do

Never grow a wishbone with a backbone ought to be

Remember there will always be one person you can depend on at all times- YOURSELF

The past was. tomorrow maybe. only today “IS”

Courage is from the only places still left uncrowded

If the future seems overwhelming, remember it comes one moment at a time

if you dont know the answer perhaps you should rephrase the question

Birds sing after every storm

If you dont take control of your life, dont complain when other do

If you dont like being with yourself, why should anyone else want to?

Dont wait for the world to change. Change it yourself!

If at first you dont succeed, try setting a more realistic goal

Be productive, not busy

When old habits are hard to break try bending them

There are no impossible dreams, just limited perception of what is possible

Sometimes the most forceful statement you can make, is to remain silent

Don’t avoid a good argument, just a bad one

If you can’t change your fate, change your attitude

You don’t need a loud voice to be heard. All you need is something worthwhile to say

Joyful people live life by finding what to celebrate. pessimists by what could have been

You can’t change that which you cant accept

The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind

Impossible is just an opinion

Strange as it sounds, great people gain respect by giving it away

You alone can do it, but you can’t do it alone

The secret is to keep people around you who will call for your best

We are the one we have been waiting for all these years

Sometimes you have to create what you want to be part of

There are many things in life that will catch your eye. few that will catch your heart. Pursue these

Define yourself by the best that is within us. Not the worst that was done to us

Where we come from isn’t nearly as important as where we are heading

Making a living is only part of life

We work to become, not to acquire

The things that got us here will not get us there

If you want someone to do a good job, give them a good job to do

if we have a big enough “why”, we will find the “how”

Yesterday’s answer has nothing to do with todays problem

Reorganization it the permanent process to a healthy person

Someone is sitting in the shade today, because someone planted a tree a while ago

There is somebody smarter than any of us, that is all of us

If the rate of change in an organization is less than the rate of change outside, the end is in sight

The most effective way to enjoy change is to help create it

You can’t become tomorrow, by remaining what you were yesterday

Change is inevitable. The direction is our choice

The next time your mind wonders follow it around for a while

Leadership is not about making yourself more powerful, its about making others more powerful

The curios have the greatest adventures

Creativity is like a muscle, you either use it or you lose it

Dont expect anything creative from an echo

People will accept your ideas if you tell them Benjamin Franklin said it first

Chances are the puzzled looks your idea creates, the better it is

If we don’t execute our ideas, they’ll die!

Its the start that stops most people

Growth demands a temporary surrender to security

Someday is not a day in the week

The whole is the sum of many

Leadership is action, not a position

You have got wings, now fly!

Caring is a powerful business advantage

Excellence is not a spectator sport. Everyone’s involved

Success is sweetest when its shared

No plan emerges unscathed when it finally meets reality

Plan your future. That is where you will end up

The most significant work that will ever get done is in the four walls of our own home

To the world you must be one person, but to one person be the world

Think beyond your lifetime if you wish to accomplish something truly worthwhile

When you reach a goal ENJOY IT. Dont just use it as a stepping stone to the next level

Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.

It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop

If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn’t sit for a month

When inspiration does not come to me, I go halfway to meet it.

It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting

Be yourself; everyone else is already taken

First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, and then you win!

The ultimate reason for setting goals is to entice you to become the person it takes to achieve them

Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind

There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you

Courage isn’t having the strength to go on – it is going on when you don’t have strength.

The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams

Learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.

You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.

I couldn’t wait for success, so I went ahead without it

It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It’s what we do consistently

The whole secret of a successful life is to find out what is one’s destiny to do, and then do it.

Men’s best successes come after their disappointments.

A wise man can learn more from a foolish question than a fool can learn from a wise answer

One-half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough

If you talk about it, it’s a dream, if you envision it, it’s possible, but if you schedule it, it’s real.

Success is blocked by concentrating on it & planning for it. Success is shy; it won’t come out while you’re watching.

There is always room at the top

Success is not measured by the heights one attains, but by the obstacles one overcomes in its attainment.

People who cannot find time for recreation are obliged sooner or later to find time for illness.

Time = Life, Therefore, waste your time and waste of your life, or master your time and master your life.

The purpose of life is a life of purpose

Here is the test to find whether your mission in life is over: if you’re alive, it isn’t.

If you want to double your success rate, you need to double your failure rate

The largest barrier to success is removing the mattress from one’s back in the morning

If we don’t discipline ourselves, the world will do it for us.

The great dividing line between success and failure can be expressed in five words: I DID NOT HAVE TIME.

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.

The door to success is the one marked PUSH.

The first hour of the morning is the rudder of the day.

To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it

Take good care of your future because that’s where you’re going to spend the rest of your life

I do not think much of a man who is not wiser today than he was yesterday. -Abraham Lincoln

Your talent is Hashems gift to you; what you do with it is your gift to Hashem

You pile up enough tomorrows, and you’ll find you’ve collected a lot of empty yesterdays.

Big men become big by doing what they didn’t want to do when they didn’t want to do it.

Show me a man who cannot bother to do little things and I’ll show you a man who cannot be trusted to do big things

If you see 10 troubles coming down the road, you can be sure that 9 will run into the ditch before they reach you.

Impossibilities are merely things which we have not yet learned.

People are always neglecting something they can do in trying to do something they can’t do.

Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because you experienced

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough

In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.

Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results.

The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.


Sometimes it takes a good fall to really know where you stand

Kites rise highest against the wind, not with it.

It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.”

Don’t mistake activity with achievement.

We are all failures- at least the best of us are.

Rich people have small TVs and big libraries, and poor people have small libraries and big TVs.

“To succeed in life, you need three things: a wishbone, a backbone and a funnybone.”

“Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment”

“The roughest roads often lead to the top.”

“Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.”

“People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.”

“I know God won’t give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish he didn’t trust me so much.”

“Do one thing every day that scares you.”

“What’s meant to be will always find a way”

“The flower that blooms in adversity is the rarest and most beautiful of all.”

“I dream my painting and I paint my dream.”

Vincent van Gogh

“When someone tells me “no,” it doesn’t mean I can’t do it, it simply means I can’t do it with them.”

“You’re never as good as everyone tells you when you win, and you’re never as bad as they say when you lose.

“When the people fear the government there is tyranny, when the government fears the people there is liberty.”

“The only thing standing between you and your goal is the lie you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.”

“The price of greatness is responsibility.”

What you will allow is what will continue.

Why are you trying so hard to fit in when you were born to stand out?

Look at everything as though you were seeing it either for the first or last time

Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer grows you.

Change begins at the end of your comfort zone

Even fools seem smart when they are quiet

In life you are either a passenger or a pilot, it’s your choice.

You don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward.

It takes some courage to stand up and speak; it takes even more courage to open your mind and listen.

Don’t think outside the box. Think like there is no box

Let your dreams be bigger than your fears and your actions be louder than your words.

I am in charge of how I feel and TODAY I am choosing HAPPINESS.

Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.

To be old & wise, you must first have to be young & stupid.

If it is important enough to you, you will find a way. If it is not, you will find an excuse.

(Tell the truth or someone will tell it for you.)

I’d rather have a life of ‘OH WELLS’ than a life of ‘WHAT IFS.’

Stop blaming the darkness and light some candles!

Sometimes the wrong choices bring us to the right places.

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.

Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less

(Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.)

Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the mistakes.

Don’t make excuses for why you can’t get it done. Focus on all the ways you will make it happen.

Ask yourself what is really important and then have the courage to build your life around your answer.

Talking about our problems is an addiction. Break the habitby talking about your joys.

The happiest people don’t have the best of everything, they make the best of everything.

A person is like a tea bag: you can only tell how strong they are until you put them in hot water.

If you think education is expensive try ignorance.

Once you’ve accepted your flaws no one can use them against you.

Don’t be focused on your problems. Be led by your dreams.

If it wasn’t hard, everyone would do it. Doing it is what makes you great.

SMALL changes ALWAYS make a BIG difference.

Those who follow the crowd usually get lost in it.

May your life preach more loudly than your lips.

Do not ask Hashem to guide your footsteps if you’re not willing to move your feet.

Let your smile change the world but never let the world change your smile.

If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your perspective.

How you make others feel about themselves, says a lot about you.

People too weak to follow their own dreams will always find a way to discourage yours.

Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Wishing is not enough, we must do

Know, everything is up to Hashem, work as if it’s up to you.

You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something.

Everyone dies, not everyone lived.

Two things define you: Your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything.

You dont build success on what you’re going to do

Some succeed because they’re destined. Most succeed because they’re determined.

Losers quit when they’re tired. Winners don’t quit even when they’ve won.

A wise man will make more opportunities than he finds.

Amazing how we can light tomorrow with today

Everything you want is on the other side. Now go and get it!

If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astonish ourselves

Your current situation is no indication of your ultimate potential

Watch out for emergencies. They are your big chance

To jump you have to bend first

Hashem can do anything…the secret is in letting Him.

No bird soars too high if he soars on his own wings.

You can live a perfectly normal life if you accept the fact that your life will never be perfectly normal.

Don’t throw away the old bucket until you know whether the new one holds water.

Most of the shadows of life are caused by standing in our own sunshine.

Once you learn to walk, crawling is out of the question.

We don’t see things as they are; we see things as we are.

Part of growth we can’t do alone and part nobody can do for us.

To “let go” is not to regret the past, but to grow and live  for the future.

To “let go” is not to deny, but to accept.

To “let go” is not to be protective, it is to permit another to face reality.

To “let go” is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.

To “let go” is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To “let go” is not to care for, but to care about.

To “let go” is not to try to change or to blame another, It is to make the most of myself.

To “let go” is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To “let go” is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To “let go” is not to cut myself off. It is the realization I cannot control another.

To “let go” does not mean to stop mean stop caring, it means I cannot do it for someone else.

one day at a time

Be brief, be kind, be gone.

This too shall pass.

The most common sort of lie is one uttered to oneself.

Don’t compromise yourself. You’re all you got

I can forgive, but I cannot forget is only another way of saying, “I cannot forgive.”

More people would learn from their mistakes if they weren’t so busy denying them.

I am always ready to learn, although I do not like being taught.

Nothing robs the mind of all its power and reasoning as fear.

Convincing yourself does not win the argument.

If you chase two rabbits, both will escape.

People have a way of becoming what you encourage them to be-not what you nag them to be.

Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong.

They can because they think they can.

Do not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness.

However, long the night, the dawn will break

You grow up the day you have your first real laugh-at yourself.

the surest way to success is to lose yourself in a cause greater than yourself.

Kites rise highest against the wind-not with it.

Unless you walk out into the unknown, the odds of making profound differences in your life are pretty low

say what you mean and mean what you say, but don’t say it mean.

how important is it?

keep it simple